We Are Complementarian

Text: Genesis 2:18-25; Eph. 5:22-32; 1 Cor. 11:3-9; 1 Tim. 2:12-13

Big Idea: “As men and women joyfully function in their God-given roles, our churches will be blessed, and our homes will become a clear illustration of the gospel.”

Introduction (Genesis 2:18-25)

From Adam’s side, God made woman – bone of his bone, flesh of his flesh. That’s significant. God didn’t make Adam and Eve from different piles of dust. From the beginning they were connected – two beings from one source.

We also see that man and woman were made equal in value before God. Made in God’s image, both men and women are loved by their Creator – equally, deeply, perfectly. And then when Adam and Eve were removed from of the garden, it was a result of both of them sinning. So we are not only equal in value before God, but we are also equal in the sin we inherit from birth, equally in need of a Savior.

Yet in God’s divine wisdom, He also made man and woman different.

1. Our Roles are to reflect Christ in the home. (Eph. 5:22-32)

God intends for our marriages to reflect Christ and the Church. God created this beautiful thing called marriage for many reasons: So that man and woman would not be alone; to promote the family and the raising of children; to build a strong culture and society. But more than all of these, God created marriage as a visual of the gospel.

When we live out the kind of marriages that show love, respect, humility, forgiveness, when men humbly lead their families and women graciously support their husbands, the character of Christ is seen. The relationship of Christ and the Church is reflected. There is nothing more beautiful. And those around you will sit up and take notice.

2. Our Roles are to reflect Christ in the church. (1 Cor. 11:3-9; 1 Tim. 2:12-13)

Through Paul, God is teaching the churches, that the roles of men and women and how they function in the home should also function in the church. God is saying, “Just as a man should humbly lead his home, men should humbly lead the church.” And our distinct roles as men and women in marriage have the same motivations in the church – to point to Jesus and live out a picture of the gospel.

Men and women are not meant to be in competition, but we are meant to compliment one another. And as with marriage, the best case for complementarity in the church is to see it in action: men serving by humbly leading, and women serving by intelligently supporting.

The Bible begins with a wedding – Adam and Eve. And the Bible ends with a wedding – the one between Christ and His Church. And it’s this wedding we need to look to, that we need to long for. Until then, let celebrate the gift of manhood and womanhood as God made us. Let us use those roles to look forward to that one day when we – the Church – will be reunited with her groom – Christ Jesus at the wedding feast of the Lamb.

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